Do Women need Men
Readers Respond II
From Gary M. (19 yrs old)
I don’t know! Sometimes I think women do need men, then I go to the disco and I see all these young girls hanging close to each other. They do a lot of giggling and fondling one another to make it pretty obvious that they are into one another sexually and emotionally. I’m not talking about girls who are unattractive. On the contrary, all these girls could have their pick of any of us guys, but no, they are simply not interested. Us guys can’t even get a dance with one. It makes a young guy like me wonder what is going on. What can I look forward to in the future. What is my purpose in this world if it is not to be like my father.
I am not gay, and what’s more, I could never have any such feelings for another guy. So, I suppose I should finish my education and look for a good job. Usually, I think, a man would be eager to do these things so that he would be in a good position to serve his family. But, will I ever have a family if I can’t even meet a girl who likes guys.
I was talking to my mate about this and he thinks my opinion is too pessimistic. I certainly hope he’s right.
From Joan.
(Joan is a composite woman, as there are several individual ladies’ opinions rolled up into one, being as they are so similar.)
Men! Poor things. I can see why the question has come up. We women are on the move towards equality and independence, and I can see why many men would find this movement threatening. Men have had it their way for so long, but life is a dynamic thing. It is always changing. The challenge to the human species is to be flexible enough to bend with the winds of change.
Women are outright about who they are, and their sexuality. The good news, men, is that most probably there are no more lesbians today than there have ever been. They are just more visible. Their kind inhabit the total range, including some who are like feral cats. They mate anytime, anywhere, and without any kind of human warmth. At the other end there are those who seek genuine love, warmth and affection with one exclusive partner, and they want the familiar framework of hearth and home, complete with children. So, let it be!
I think I speak for the majority of us when I say that we would like to be less dependent on men for the material things of life, as I don’t think anyone actually enjoys being beholden to another person. Freedom is knowing that you can always move on if things are just not working out. Enslavement is the exact opposite.
Men and women are so different in many ways, but fundamentally, all people respond well to a sense of self-worth defined by the skills they have and the kind of work that they do. Even manual labour is rewarding if done well. Consequently, I enjoy my job, or call it a career, and I am happy about earning a decent liveable wage. I want to be able to nurture my child or children, and to have the respect of my community, and the security of a roof over our heads. As can be seen, there is ample room within these criteria for the support of a man. Life goes so much better when you are two to deal with the everyday stresses and strains.
Not matter what else, for us women who need men, late at night when we seek a cuddle in the arms of our significant other, it really is better if he is strong, has respect for me as a full human being, not just some sex object, and that he returns my love in equal measure. Nothing else can substitute at times like that. Not my pillow, not a Teddy Bear, and certainly not another woman. Now that’s what I call real Men’s Work!
Wow! Thank you Joan, and Thank you Gary!
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Copyright © 2006 –2007 Eugene Carmichael
Readers Respond II
From Gary M. (19 yrs old)
I don’t know! Sometimes I think women do need men, then I go to the disco and I see all these young girls hanging close to each other. They do a lot of giggling and fondling one another to make it pretty obvious that they are into one another sexually and emotionally. I’m not talking about girls who are unattractive. On the contrary, all these girls could have their pick of any of us guys, but no, they are simply not interested. Us guys can’t even get a dance with one. It makes a young guy like me wonder what is going on. What can I look forward to in the future. What is my purpose in this world if it is not to be like my father.
I am not gay, and what’s more, I could never have any such feelings for another guy. So, I suppose I should finish my education and look for a good job. Usually, I think, a man would be eager to do these things so that he would be in a good position to serve his family. But, will I ever have a family if I can’t even meet a girl who likes guys.
I was talking to my mate about this and he thinks my opinion is too pessimistic. I certainly hope he’s right.
From Joan.
(Joan is a composite woman, as there are several individual ladies’ opinions rolled up into one, being as they are so similar.)
Men! Poor things. I can see why the question has come up. We women are on the move towards equality and independence, and I can see why many men would find this movement threatening. Men have had it their way for so long, but life is a dynamic thing. It is always changing. The challenge to the human species is to be flexible enough to bend with the winds of change.
Women are outright about who they are, and their sexuality. The good news, men, is that most probably there are no more lesbians today than there have ever been. They are just more visible. Their kind inhabit the total range, including some who are like feral cats. They mate anytime, anywhere, and without any kind of human warmth. At the other end there are those who seek genuine love, warmth and affection with one exclusive partner, and they want the familiar framework of hearth and home, complete with children. So, let it be!
I think I speak for the majority of us when I say that we would like to be less dependent on men for the material things of life, as I don’t think anyone actually enjoys being beholden to another person. Freedom is knowing that you can always move on if things are just not working out. Enslavement is the exact opposite.
Men and women are so different in many ways, but fundamentally, all people respond well to a sense of self-worth defined by the skills they have and the kind of work that they do. Even manual labour is rewarding if done well. Consequently, I enjoy my job, or call it a career, and I am happy about earning a decent liveable wage. I want to be able to nurture my child or children, and to have the respect of my community, and the security of a roof over our heads. As can be seen, there is ample room within these criteria for the support of a man. Life goes so much better when you are two to deal with the everyday stresses and strains.
Not matter what else, for us women who need men, late at night when we seek a cuddle in the arms of our significant other, it really is better if he is strong, has respect for me as a full human being, not just some sex object, and that he returns my love in equal measure. Nothing else can substitute at times like that. Not my pillow, not a Teddy Bear, and certainly not another woman. Now that’s what I call real Men’s Work!
Wow! Thank you Joan, and Thank you Gary!
E-mail your concerns to eugene.spain@gmail.com
Copyright © 2006 –2007 Eugene Carmichael
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